How you can help Liverpool family after crash kills mother and paralyzes 10-year-old daughter

Family and friends organizing benefit for Patterson family after crash kills mother and paralyzes 10-year-old daughter.

The Patterson family may never heal from the impact of this crash. It happened in November 24 when a car, driven by Muhammad Baqir, 42, crossed into their lane and hit them head-on. According to court documents, Baqir told investigators he used heroin in the hours before the crash.

Grandfather, Lance Patterson Senior, remembers what the doctors told him about his family.

"They told us my daughter in law was gone. The children were hurt bad and my son was hurt bad as well. It was a lot to take in at the time," says Patterson.

The family has barely had time to grieve the loss of Meagan, a loving wife and mother. Aunt, Jaclyn Patterson Boylan says the family is still trying to heal physically.

"There hasn't even been a memorial service yet because they want to be able to attend it. And right now they can't," says Boylan.

Husband Lance and their three children were all severely injured. Olivia, 10, barely survived. She's now paralyzed from the waist down.

"You wouldn't want that happening to your daughter. When you think about it that way it kind of grips you. Remembering it could have been yours," says Boylan.

It's been three months since the crash and Olivia just returned home this week, but living at home in her wheelchair is a challenge. Just to be able to function normally she needs an automatic bed with trapeze, a handicap accessible bathroom and a modified van.

Boyle and Patterson are hoping a benefit will remind the community about the long journey ahead.

"It's been real tough because they're starting to realize now that they miss their mother and they've been asking for her and wish it never happened. But we can't turn back time and I wish we could," says Patterson.

The benefit is taking place on March 16 from 1 to 6 p.m at the Cicero American Legion located at 5575 Legionnaire Drive in Cicero. Tickets are $15 and are available at Wegmans and at the door.

The event includes a silent auction, 50/50 drawings, raffles, food and entertainment. Music will be provided by Brass on the Rocks, Israel Hagan and Stroke and Gina Rose/Country Rose.

Funds raised will help offset some of the costs associated with the family's rehabilitation.

Event organizers are still accepting donations. Anyone interested may contact

Checks can also be made out to the Family Patterson Trust and sent to P.O. Box 63 Syracuse NY 13201.