Memorial services for Sandy Hook victim with grandparents in Sherrill

Flags fly at half staff Monday outside the funeral home

An upstate New York family held a funeral Tuesday for a loved one lost in the Sandy Hook Elementary School massacre.

Cindy Mattioli, grew up in Sherrill, NY, and lost her 6-year-old son James in the shooting.

Jamesâ??s grandparents Jack and Kathy Radley still live in the upstate town, which is just a few miles southeast of Oneida.

An obituary for James described him as a kind, energetic, thoughtful, and considerate young man who recently "chose to forgo a gift for himself, and decided to use that money to purchase a mug for his Grandfather for Christmas instead."

Anna and Carey Nye live next door to James's grandparents in Sherrill and have been friends for years. "James was adorable. He was a cute, little guy. When he laughed he gave a good laugh. And to know I'm not going to see that smile again because of this tragedy," says Anna Nye.

A family friend, Robert Comis,

told WKTV

, "It's extremely difficult. Our entire country is going through a tough time because of this tragedy, but when its one of your own without our own community, it's certainly more hurtful."

Flags were flying at half staff Monday outside the Spadaccino and Leo P. Gallagher & Son Community Funeral Home in Monroe, Connecticut, where calling hours were held Monday from 2:00 â?? 4:00 p.m. and 6:00 â?? 8:00 p.m.

A funeral followed on Tuesday at St. Rose of Lima Church in Newtown at 10 a.m. and burial at St. John's Roman Catholic Cemetery in Darien, Connecticut.

In lieu of flowers, loved ones can donate to a memorial fund, the James R. Mattioli Memorial Fund c/o Newtown Savings Bank, 39 Main Street, Newtown CT 06470.