CNY therapist gives perspective on case of 30-year-old son's eviction
CAMILLUS, N.Y. —
It’s a story that is going viral around the world.
Inside the old courthouse in Syracuse the judge ruled it’s time to go and told 30-year old Michael Rotondo it’s time to pack up and get out of his parents’ house in Camillus.
"Well we don't talk. We stay out of each other's way. There's been no instances of anything. We just don't communicate,” Rotondo said.
A local therapist in Liverpool, Rose Grillo gave her perspective about how common this family drama can be.
Grillo continues to discuss how this case is unusual, but a lot of parents go through this with their children.
“These are just normal expectations that any parent has for their child to be able to launch. I mean for the exceptions would be if you have any type of compromise in your mental abilities,” Grillo said.
As the 30-year old stood in before a judge on Tuesday afternoon, it was clear their family dynamic was strained.
“It sounds like the parents played a real part in enabling him to be able to function as an adult as a member of their family a functioning member in their home. At some point something switched,” Grillo said.
Grillo said you might be surprised by the number of similar cases she has dealt with throughout the years.
“An adult child has been allowed to function in a way that is under functioning and the family has to over function in order to support him or her,” Grillo said.
With this Grillo said parents can play an important role in helping to shape their children from a young age.
This will give them the skills to learn how to be on their own.
"In fact there's many kids that I see here in high school that are seniors and just are unable to really launch because the expectations have been so low for them,” Grillo said.
Grillo said this will start instilling those lessons early before it leaves lasting damage.